Resources for Correcting Difficult Behavior

There is almost nothing more frustrating for a parent than consistent, negative behavior from a child we love dearly.    If a child is adopted, and continually rejects a parent’s values and chosen standards, then bitterness in a mother or father’s is a real possibility.

    Here are some resources that are recommended by NATHHAN parents as a way of moving a child in a more positive direction. Parents need hope. Kids need to work through hurts in their past to move onward to a healthy life.
It is hard to box-up something that is working for us and then tell you “do this and your child will change for the better.” Each family is unique in how they relate to each other, and what a parent is dealing with in their own lives. All of this combines to create a one-of-a-kind environment for either growth, or destruction of a family.
Things do not usually stay the same… they either go down hill, or get better. Here are some ways to help families grow better.
    How dads and moms relate to each other makes all the difference in managing a child who is challenging them. If a wife is disrespectful in attitude or action toward her husband, children will naturally check into her side of the issue. If a husband is unkind, and cutting down his wife, the children will often despise both and disregard any attempts to make a heart-change in obedience themselves. The whole picture needs to change for the better. Here is a great set of DVD’s that will work good in your marriage.

Love & Respect
Dr. Emerson Eggerichs
Hardcover book and DVD set www.loveandrespect.com

    In this groundbreaking book, Dr. Emerson Eggerichs introduces the revolutionary message of biblical respect that has revived and energized marriages across the country.
    DVD set based on Ephesians 5:33 Nevertheless, let every one of you in particular so love his wife, even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.

The Total Transformation
A Parent’s Program for Managing challenging Behaviors in Children
By James Lehman, MSW
By Legacy Parenting Company
1-800-782-1182 hot line for parents
1-800-460-2235
www.thetotaltransformation.com
This is a DVD and audio combination, step-by-step program to help you understand and manage disrespectful, obnoxious and abusive behavior in your child or grandchild. Ultimately, it is a comprehensive program for change. Each lesson builds on the one before it.
    Sections include:
        Why Does My Child Act This Way?
        Why Won’t My Child Listen To Me?
        Breaking Through
        Transformation Tools
        Understanding Faulty Thinking
        What To Do After Your Child Acts Out?
        How To Stop It Before It Starts

We have reviewed this program and have found it very helpful. It is one of the first of its kind to really address parents who are dealing with Oppositional Defiance Disorder, Fetal Alcohol Effects, Reactive Attachment Disorders
Mr. Lehman definitely speaks to the heart of the matter with parents. He has experience in how these kids feel, as he feels he was one of them and can relate. There is some slightly rough sounding language, yet the message is terrific and very helpful. There are LOTS of concrete suggestions and solutions.